|Argue For The Sake |
I'm sure you could make this post out to be one that is argumentative even if it not meant in that way. All too often, people argue for the sake of argument. Often in our society, we call it debate or discussion, but its still just arguing. People seem to love to practice this and it almost invokes its own energy.
One of the places that I see it is on the internet forums. Person 1 comes along and the next thing you know is person 2 says something that just seems to take the opposite position for the fun of it or so it seems. Person 3 than comes along and tries to offer something to balance and the next thing they know, they are in the middle of world war 3. It amazes me on the online forums and message boards.
I'm wondering why people can't just back off and let the conservation stand in the way it is presented. It is like unless you believe my way, I'm not going to back down until you do. As far as that goes, I have family members who think like that. Unless you agree with them, you are labeled into something you are not.
To be honest, most of the time, no one truly listens to the other point of view or fully understands what the other person really thinks. It is almost like, don't let the facts stand in the way. One statement is taken out of context and then that statement becomes the sole source of what the person said. It is really sad in my opinion.
We see this modeled over and over on the "so called" news of the day and the political races. No one really has all the facts and no one truly listens to the other person. It is all about getting one's point across and to hell with everyone else. Is that not a sad testament of what it means to be human?
I'm perplexed at this behavior as there are often times when it is just necessary to walk away. Yet, it does not seem like most people can do that. Everyone talks a good talk but they don't walk the talk. I often think back to something I heard that we were given two ears and one mouth, meaning that we should talk less than we listen.
Humanity would best be served if we learned to listen to one another, and didn't try to pound our ideas into everyone else. We would be so much better off if we learned how to respect one another and the difference of opinion. We don't all need to be alike. We don't all need to agree. In fact, if everyone of us believed the same way, I think it would make one messed up world and a boring one at that!
The next time you feel the need to argue online or in every day, make sure it is something that really matters. Most things we argue amount, really don't matter in the grand scheme of life or they give a false illusion that our argument is somehow helping. You may want to stop and feel how the energy of the moment of argument feels within your mind and body. Sensing that may guide you in the moments ahead. Sometimes, when things get heated and we feel the need to argue, it is the exact moment we need to walk away, take a breath and refocus our mind.
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