You see, its easy for us to think that this is something everyone else does. The philosophy of I'm Right and You're Wrong is so prevalent in our society that no one even is aware they do this anymore. Look no further than politics or religion or even most relationships.
I'm not going to sit here and tell you I don't do this, because I do. It is something I really have to watch myself on because I can quickly look at others and think they are wrong. I sometimes get a little too high and mighty for myself. For me, I can chalk it up to the way I was raised. If you didn't go to our church or think like my father, you were wrong. It has taken me years of deprogramming to let go of that narrow minded thinking I was raised in.
What I've found in my own life is that if I view others as being wrong and I'm right, then I will enjoy a miserable experience each and every day. There is no joy in that. There is no love in that. There is no feeling of being at one with another, because with that thinking you separate yourself from all others.
Say it with compassion and love...
Sure, maybe there is something you know that others have not realized yet, but if you use it to look down at them or beat them with a bully stick, than do you really have something good? What if instead of using your "enlightened thought" to slap the other person, you use it to help them understand what it is that you know. Say it with compassion and say it with love! You'll get much further.
There are some things that just don't matter in the grand scheme of life. Sometimes, things are insignificant in the grand scheme of life and they just don't matter. They might matter to you, but if you compare them to the thousand years of civilization in a great big universe, do they really measure up? It is often better to pick and choose what is important, rather than trying to apply that to every moment of every day.
Even though we grow up with certain habits and procedures, it does not mean we have the only way to do stuff in life. Often while we hold these teachings to be the right way, they are nothing more than what we were taught. It is up to us as adults to begin learning what really matters, what really works in our life, and what we are going to care about in any given day.
I choose not care about some things...
On a TV show, I saw one character ask another their thoughts about some random subject. His response was "I don't have an opinion." Of course, the befuddled the person asking because they said, "you've got to have an opinion - its too important." His response was, "I've only got so much ram and I can only care about so many things. Some things I choose not to care about." It was a good example.
Unfortunately we spend too much time in front of the screen watching our favorite news programs and allowing them to incite us to cement our beliefs for that moment. We don't allow ourselves to think independently as we gulp down minute by minute news stories. We see things in one way only and we watch the things that back up our views. Often, we are not as enlightened and smart as we think we are.
You can either beat someone into submission to believe that you are right and they are wrong, or you can help lead them to discovery. If you lead them to discovery, there is a good chance that both of you will learn something on the journey.
When we say I'm right and you're wrong, it is about attempting to control others so they see things our way. The more others see things our way, the more safe and secure we feel. It is not an enlightened moment of human interaction, but one of narrow mindedness and fear and control.
Challenge yourself - just don't take my word for it. Challenge yourself to not see others as wrong. We're just screaming at one another these days and the more we think we are right and everyone else is wrong, the more we're condemning this world to a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering and evil.
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