Your silence to a person going through difficult moments or a tragedy is hurtful. It says, "I don't care." It says, "you don't matter."
Of course, most likely you do care and most likely your friend or loved one does mean a lot to you. Yet, if you don't show it, how do they know? How do they know they are not just alone?
We all tell people to reach out and we are there for them, but are we really? If we don't let them know and if we don't walk beside them through difficult moments and tragedies, we may as well be a million miles away.
Finding the right words...
Sometimes there is no best thing you can say to someone. Often there is a loss of words and that is okay. Just let them know through your heart and words and actions that you are there. Don't make flowery suggestions or statements that are pie-in-the-sky claims.
Be real with others. Show others that you love, that you truly love them. Its all they need in a difficult moment or tragedy. They just need to know someone cares. They just need to know they aren't alone. That is more then all the money in the world can buy.
Through a recent period of difficult moments and tragedies, there were far too many that say they care for me, that were absent. Maybe they meant to getting around to be there. Maybe they didn't know what to say. Their silence hurt and cut through me like a knife.
More than a happy meme of the day...
If you know someone who is hurting, don't just give them a feel good, happy meme of the day. Give them your heart so they are reminded of love. Give them your feet, so they can continue to stand. Give them your arms so they can rest and lean on you for support.
Don't be silent to them. Don't think that they know how you feel about them. Don't believe for one second that they understand you are there for them and that you love them without saying a word to them. Don't think that even though you've told them a million times how much you care that they are remembering that in this current difficult moment.
Don't let them stand alone in silence...
Difficult moments are tough. Tragedies are even more tough to deal with in a day. Don't fail those affected and struggling by leaving them to stand alone in silence and fear.
Just let someone know you care. Don't be one of those that say they care, but fail to show it. Be more than that. This is my challenge. Take a look at my blog post, "People Say They Care" or click on the image below to read it.
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