Showing posts with label tragedy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label tragedy. Show all posts

Thursday, August 11, 2016

Glued To The News Of A Tragedy

Lately, we are overloaded as a people.  Our nervous systems are designed to handle a great deal and so is our brain.  Yet, when we see events of the past few weeks unfolding every day, we push the limits of all that we can endure.

If we are glued to the news of a tragedy, it can be just as harmful in my view as if we were right there involved in the tragedy.  I say this because I can see it in myself.  When we watch the images that are repeated over and over, its like we are re-traumatizing ourselves.  It imprints into our brain and wires us with emotion to make this a very strong neural pathway.

Even if we hover over every news article and tweet or Facebook posting, we are allowing ourselves to be glued to the news of a tragedy.  It is not healthy for us.  It keeps our body revved up as if the events are happening and continuing to happen.

It keeps fear alive inside of us...

It keeps fear alive inside of us because when we see these things unfold, it connects with that part within our mind and body that says, "it is not safe".  When we connect with the unsafe part, it recalls all those memories where we did not feel safe.  It re-traumatizes us as if not only this current event is happening, but that there is a strong basis for past events to have happened.

When we keep our body and our mind ramped up in fear, we are not taking care of ourselves.  We are not allowing our nervous system to calm down.  We are not feeling in our body, because the last thing that fear does is allow you to feel anything in your body.  The less we feel, the more we set ourselves up for illness and health conditions that will have an environment to grow.

Our nervous systems are overloaded...

Our nervous systems are already overloaded in this world.  We have pushed ourselves far beyond the normal limits of healthy behavior.  Events like we've seen unfold lately only push those limits into the upper ends of the danger zones for our mind and body.

http://mindbodythoughts.blogspot.com/2015/11/peace-on-earth-begins-with-me.html

It is up to each one of us to limit how much we take in during these tragedies of life.  Being glued to the news is not something that is helpful.  I'm not telling you to stick your head in the sand, but limit your intake of this harmful and toxic news that is replayed hour upon hour.

The media's goal is to keep you hooked into their programming so they make money.  They are not here for our evolution or awareness or consciousness.  If they limit what they show, you'll turn to those that don't.  If you truly want to take care of yourself, then don't glue yourself to the news of a tragedy.  It will only harm you, not help you.




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Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Just Let Someone Know You Care

In a tragedy or difficult time, sometimes the simplest thing can be the best thing.  We all think we have to come up with the right words, but that could not be further from the truth.  Just let someone know you care.

Your silence to a person going through difficult moments or a tragedy is hurtful.  It says, "I don't care."  It says, "you don't matter."

Of course, most likely you do care and most likely your friend or loved one does mean a lot to you.  Yet, if you don't show it, how do they know?  How do they know they are not just alone?

We all tell people to reach out and we are there for them, but are we really?   If we don't let them know and if we don't walk beside them through difficult moments and tragedies, we may as well be a million miles away.

Finding the right words...

Sometimes there is no best thing you can say to someone.  Often there is a loss of words and that is okay.  Just let them know through your heart and words and actions that you are there.  Don't make flowery suggestions or statements that are pie-in-the-sky claims.

Be real with others.  Show others that you love, that you truly love them.  Its all they need in a difficult moment or tragedy.  They just need to know someone cares.  They just need to know they aren't alone.  That is more then all the money in the world can buy.

Through a recent period of difficult moments and tragedies, there were far too many that say they care for me, that were absent.  Maybe they meant to getting around to be there.  Maybe they didn't know what to say.  Their silence hurt and cut through me like a knife.

More than a happy meme of the day...

If you know someone who is hurting, don't just give them a feel good, happy meme of the day.  Give them your heart so they are reminded of love.  Give them your feet, so they can continue to stand.  Give them your arms so they can rest and lean on you for support.

Don't be silent to them.  Don't think that they know how you feel about them.  Don't believe for one second that they understand you are there for them and that you love them without saying a word to them.  Don't think that even though you've told them a million times how much you care that they are remembering that in this current difficult moment. 

Don't let them stand alone in silence...

Difficult moments are tough.  Tragedies are even more tough to deal with in a day.  Don't fail those affected and struggling by leaving them to stand alone in silence and fear.

Just let someone know you care.  Don't be one of those that say they care, but fail to show it.  Be more than that.  This is my challenge.  Take a look at my blog post, "People Say They Care" or click on the image below to read it.

http://mindbodythoughts.blogspot.com/2016/03/people-say-they-care.html





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