It sounds too simple, right? It sounds too much like new age thinking, right?
Unfortunately, it is more grounded and connected in reality and in your body than anything remotely connected with simplicity or new age thoughts.
I through I knew how to relax...
I know, I know - I was one that talked the talk, but I didn't truly understand the concept I'm writing about here. I thought I knew how to relax and let go of stress. I thought I was connected to my body and knew myself well. I thought I had life all together.
Unfortunately I was anything but that. My own ego led me to believe that when I thought this way, I was strong. I was anything but strong. Yes, I played the role well and I convinced and fooled many people. Most importantly, I was just fooling myself.
So now that we have the basic foundation down, please know that most of us do exactly what it is that we don't think we do. Hey, its part of the human experience. It is part of being human and living in a human body. Its part of the process of becoming more than we are today in this moment.
What happened before you noticed the pain?
If you really want to understand pain that you're feeling, ask the question, "what happened before you noticed the pain?" What was going on right before it. What emotional things were you dealing with and what stresses were there.
If you can't think of anything, start to list events that were taking place right before you began to notice the pain. Make a time line of what transpired and when. It will help you see it because all too often, we just don't want to see it. We struggle to see it. We have difficulty in making that connection. Even if the event seems too insignificant, jot it down in your timeline. It may be the combinations of little events that show the greater picture.
Becoming aware of what was happening right before the pain or emotional state kicked up will shed light on the mind-body connection. It will show you what up close and person what events and experiences have connected with something you feel in your body or mind.
It's important to make that connection...
While we may discount events and experiences and question why or how they could impact us, the important part is to make that connection. Sometimes these things connect with other neural pathways and bring out the pain or body issue that we've been hiding and disconnecting from in our life.
You might not magically change the pain or emotional state of mind at that instant, but it gives you the opportunity to start rewiring the brain and taking back the control. It is a process that the more you do this, the more in touch you become with your internal body. The more in touch you become, the more power you possess to change things from what they are to what they can be.
Asking and questioning what happened before you noticed the pain is the way to connect the body and mind together. It is the way to see things more clearly and help lead you on a path of self-discovery bringing you to the answers and possibilities before you.
Yes, it does sound too simple to be true. Yes, you may question if this idea is true or not and the only thing I can say, is begin to test it out within yourself. See how it works for you. Leave the doubt behind and focus on what you allow your mind to see and your body to feel. If at first you don't succeed with it, keep trying because I promise you that there is a connection there.
We are taught to fear the pain coming up...
Recently I had another situation prove this to me once again. I had to make a decision and take some actions that were very difficult. In the process I ended up with severe back pain. When I began to finally make the connection between the difficulty of what was going on in my life at that moment and when the pain started, it was then that things started the process of improving. It didn't happen in two seconds, but the process of moving out of the pain started.
We all are taught to fear the pains that come up. Again, this is a biological mechanism of being human in a human body. We are not taught from birth onward that we have much more control over our physical body and mind then we realize.
Our body and our mind can take us down. I know that from experience. I also know now that our body and mind can bring us back and lift us to greater heights. It doesn't mean it is easy, but it does mean it is possible.
This blog post on "Observing Stress In My Body" may also shed some additional information on this subject.
Allow yourself to connect with what is going on with the outside world while seeing where it connects to your internal world. The connection is there. It may not be easy to find in the beginning, but keep practicing it and I guarantee you that your outlook will change and so will your life.
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