I recently found this video on forgiveness and letting go and just had to share it on this blog. Like many people in this world, I have struggled with forgiveness. What I was taught that forgiveness was and what it actually is, are two different things. For me, it was all about letting the abuser or offender off the hook and acting as if it never happened.
There is a very good reason why we are taught as children to do this especially in our family units. If the parents feel guilty, than the best way for them to get rid of the guilt is to get you to act as if it didn't happen. The subtle difference here in what forgiveness is truly about and what happens in many families is profound.
Forgiveness has nothing to do with the abuser or offender in your life. It is not about giving them a free ride or letting them act as if they never did anything to harm you or offend you. Forgiveness is an act you do with yourself to let go of the past, the hurts, the traumas and everything else. It is about you getting on with your life and not allowing your past to control your current life or your future.
Forgiveness is a process. It is not something that you wake up today and everything is 100 percent perfect in your life. It takes time to understand forgiveness and to learn to let go. One of my biggest hurdles that I personally had to face was learning that it was okay for me to take the time necessary to begin to forgive. Forgiveness is not an overnight experience.
I hope you enjoy this video I found on Youtube. Check out the other related blog posts below and even what I heard Oprah say when I was at the taping for the 200 Men episode.
YouTube Video Link: http://youtu.be/3D4VMZb8wLY
Just remember, forgiveness is not something that anyone can force upon you and it will happen only in your own time, when you are ready for it.
Related Blog Posts
1) Family And Forgiveness (Blog Post Jul 6, 2011)
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