You see, the way in which you touch someone makes all the difference. In the specific circumstance that I am referring to, it is that first touch or that gliding stroke down a back or other body part. Let me see if I can describe this further.
For instance, you have the person lying face down on a massage table with their back exposed. You have the oil on your hands and you are ready to touch them by doing a gliding stroke down their back. It sounds wonderful doesn't it? It sounds like just the thing anyone would like. Unfortunately, all too often instead of gliding down on their body as a plane would make a smooth landing at an airport, it is like they drop a bomb on the persons back with their touch. Then, they start the gliding process.
Here's how the body sees this! Instead of the massage touch being nurturing and connecting, it feels almost like someone is giving you a big ol thump on the back. Of course when the body feels a thump, it tightens up and goes into startle mode which is the opposite of what you really want. If you are aware of your touch and you make contact with the body that is nurturing, respecting, and supportive, the body will invite you in and the goal of relaxation will be more easily met.
While this may sound like a big deal to some, believe me, it is not! After all, who wants to be thumped or slapped and then expect something nice and gentle from touch taking place? Most likely the answer to that question would be none of us.
The body picks up and senses far more than we sometimes can observe, so treat it gently. Give it the touch you would like someone to give yourself. If you can't feel the difference in what I'm subscribing, than do some more healing work on yourself, so you get in touch with how this feels. The person on the massage table will thank you for it!
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Good post! There seem to be many different elements to deciding how often one needs a massage. I feel many people still consider massage a fun luxury, rather than a medical benefit, and only come in once in awhile. This, as you say, would not improve anything and get you back to square one. No wonder they don't believe there can be health benefits!
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