Get Over It

On my Facebook page, I saw something posted on the Eckhart Tolle page by one of his friends that I could not help but repost here on the blog. The quote is very powerful because I've had this told to me so many times by well meaning people, by family and others that just can find nothing better to say. Each time, I have tried to deflect the pain that this adds to whatever I am experiencing in that moment.

So here's the quote:

"When people say "Let it go," what they really mean is "Get over it," and that's not a helpful thing to say. It's not a matter of letting go - you would if you could. Instead of "Let it go," we should probably say "Let it be"; this recognizes that the mind won't let go and the problem may not go away, and it allows you to form a healthier relationship with what's bothering you." -- Jon Kabat-Zinn


One of the most healing things that you can do is to go into that which you are struggling with and be with it. If you explore all dimensions of it and learn how you can grow from it, than you will transform your life in many ways. By holding back and just hoping it will go away or trying to avoid it, your life will be full of misery and frustration.

More importantly though, these things that become our struggles and difficulties in life, are there to help us grow and evolve our mind, our body and our consciousness. There is a purpose for these to be in our life and when we understand that, we have become more conscious of who we are as a human.

Fear often gets the way of life and prevents us from going into things that we need to look at. Fear is the weapon of the ego that keeps us from going within. It is a powerful force and it loses its power when we grow and evolve in awareness.

So the next time someone says, "Get Over It" or "Just Move On"; confidently look them in the eyes and tell them, this is exactly what you are doing. By taking a look at the situation in your life, you are truly becoming healthier.


Quote Found On:
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Embrace The Pain - Part 2

This is part 2 of a three part series. Please read Part 1 as background information to this post.

When you experiencee body pain, keep in mind that pain is the body's messenger. Don't try to ignore it or rush to the medicine cabinet in your house. Instead, take a moment and stop, allowing you to go within yourself.

At this time, consider all that is going on in your life and the events leading up to when you began noticing the pain. The events I am referring to include the emotional stressors or other events that you have experienced. Usually there is a connection between the two and going within to connect this awareness is a powerful healer and game changer.

In the following explanation, here are some things that you can do to help connect your mind and body together. You can be as creative as you want to be and by no means are the following procedures the only way you can do this. This is just a guide and a framework to help you connect your mind and your body. I have included suggestion #1 and suggestion #2 in this post. Come back tomorrow for part 3 of this series where suggestion #3 will be discussed.

Suggestion #1

This is an easier way of quickly connecting the mind to the body and you can do this anywhere you are at. It could be in a chair at your desk, standing in a line at the store, lying in bed at night or just about anywhere. A quiet place can help but I have done this in many places and no one even knows I am doing it.

If you are feeling some pain in the body or just wanting to give yourself a moment of deep connection and relaxation, try this easy method. Focus on the body part and begin directing your breath to that area. You can visualize that you are filling the body part up with your breath as you bring good things into it. Then you can visualize using your exhale to take that which you don't need in your life away. It only takes a few minutes of really focusing your breath with intention to an area of your body and you can bring great change to those areas. I have walked many people through this on a massage chair in a few minutes while getting a chair massage. It is not as hard as it may seem and the more you try it, the easier it will be to do.


Suggestion #2

I got this idea from listening to Eckhart Tolle speak with Oprah about his book "A New Earth". In the short exchange he had with all the listeners, he had everyone spend 30 seconds and just focus on their breath. That was it! We know 30 seconds is not a long time but if you truly just focus on your breath for that short period of time, it will center you and bring you back into your body. You can do this just about anywhere.

Many people never pay attention to their breath and so often, we don't breathe like we need to. We barely pull enough oxygen into our bodies to run our cells and muscles, yet we expect our bodies to perform, nonstop stressful paces during our day. So as you are reading this, take 30 seconds and just focus on your breath. Let me know how you feel after you did this.


Remember, come back tomorrow for part 3 of this series and suggestion #3.


Further Reading:
1) Dr. Paul Canali, Evolutionary Healing
2) Fear Of Dentist posted on July 6, 2010
3) Embrace The Pain - Part 1 (Posted 1/28/11)
4) Embrace The Pain - Part 3 (coming tomorrow)




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Change Begins With Us

Eckhart Tolle 's Present Moment Reminder:

"A change in the collective does not happen until the change happens in the individual. The individuals make up the collective. This is why we are here. We are looking at the collective insanity and seeing how it works, and that is the first step in liberation." (as posted on Eckhart Tolle's Facebook page)

You Are Not Your Thoughts

You are not what happens; you are the space in which it happens. You are not your thoughts; they come and go. You are the vastness in which these thoughts appear and disappear because underneath all your thinking there is the stillness of pure being,... pure consciousness, the timeless dimension of yourself. - Eckhart Tolle