Sorry But Stress Is Present In Life

Written By Don Shetterly

Sometimes I see things stated and my eyes bulge out of my poor little mind. I am amazed at how unconscious and aware we can be even by those who claim to be conscious.  I believe that the things we preach to the world especially when they are our beliefs have serious consequences, and we need to be far more aware than we are.

I saw a quote online that said, "there is no such thing as stress in the world.  It is all in our mind." 

I had to read the quote a few times to make sure I saw the statement that I did.  Yes, that is the statement that I read, and it boggles my mind.

I had to read it and do a double take to make sure I saw what I did.  Yes, that is the statement.

This statement could not be further from the truth.  In fact, it and truth are strangers in distant galaxies.

There is stress no matter where you look.  Some of it is positive stress which we need in our lives.  Some of it is toxic stress.  No matter what you think your thoughts can do, stress is present.

• If you walk outside in the hot sun, the stress of the heat makes your body work to cool and find equilibrium.  
• If you get in the car and drive down the street, there are cars not obeying the traffic laws and rules of driving so that they can present stress to you. 
• There is the boss that yells at an employee in front of a meeting for something beyond their control.  That is stress on your mind and body.  
• There is the demanding boss that wants you to follow their every whim and demand with no respect for you.  That is stress.
• There is the stress of the kids needing help with homework, or to take them to every activity meeting they have.  
• There is the stress of trying to get your family fed and answering emails and texts from the boss.
• There is even stress from moments gone by in how it impacts your current thought processes on a million different subjects and points.  
• There are the financial consequences of spending too much and dealing with your ever changing budget that creates stress.
• There is that rude person who tries to ruin your day or just get in your face for the stupidest thing that they can.  
• There is the stress of a significant other feeling left out or putting demands upon your time that causes stress.
• There is the stress of all those things you were taught and learned as a young child that now sometimes makes current moments not seem reasonable to you.  In the process of those connections that happen unconsciously every minute of their day, they create stress that we don't often see.
• Learning and growth are most likely stressful moments because it takes you out of your comfort zone and into something new.

There is hardly a day that goes by where we have no stress.  If we walk around not recognizing the stress in our lives, we're not as awake and aware and conscious as we think we are.  We may be able to talk the talk, but if we can't connect the talk with real life action or the places in our bodies that it resides, we're only fooling ourselves.

If you don't recognize stress in your life, you're only setting yourself up for a big fall later on in life.  At some point, it will build up to a breaking point, and it will get your attention.  You can mark my words on that.  I've lived it.

We can't go through life putting the happy smile on our face while we ignore stress and connections to the past.  If you try to do this, let me tell you from first-hand experience that the result will not be a good one.  I don't say this out of belief.  I say it from experience.

Learn to recognize stress for what it is.  It is present.  Instead of trying to act like it doesn't exist, go in and allow yourself to see it for what it is.  Allow yourself to find ways to acknowledge and let go of it. 

It is not just an exercise for the mind because stress finds a place within our body.  If we don't see its existence, it takes us permanent residency and then crowds out the joy and peace and love you so badly desire for life.

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Life On The Balance

Life is about balance. In fact, the universe is about balance. How many times do we stop to consider this in the grand importance that it holds?

Many different modalities, healing methods and philosophies address balance to one degree or another. Some have words for it as in eastern medicine like Ying and Yang or something may say that an individual is either not balanced or balanced. We've got all kinds of ways to describe this.

In nature, you see the balancing taking place because there is the hot to the cold, the summer to the winter, the storms to the tranquil days. You can see animals such as kittens race together, play together and then lay down and groom each other together in relaxation. It's all about balance.

I remember back in one of my high school biology classes where the teacher was telling us that all stress is not bad. Negative stress is just as valuable as positive stress in our lives. Without negative stress, we might just sit there and kind of be bumps on a log or never grow or basically just exist.

While negative stress is a good thing, please keep in mind that if we are inundated with negative stress constantly and we do nothing to discharge (or balance) the stress, than our bodies become something that we do not enjoy living in. We need that moment of discharge and that point of deep therapeutic relaxation for our bodies to bring us back towards the line of balance. On the other hand if all we ever had was positive stress (or 100% relaxation) all the time, than our bodies would not necessarily be pushed to evolve and grow. It is through those difficult moments, that when we find peace once again in our lives, we observe just how much we learned.

Let's not stop though in thinking that balance is just a matter of either being stressed out or being in a state of relaxation. That would be too simplistic and somewhat miss the point of balance in our lives. In our bodies, there is a master healing system and when one gets in touch with this and allows it to take over, our body can transform in ways we are not even aware of. It is a wonderful system that helps us discover new things about ourselves, heals our bodies and sets us on a forward path of being human, being conscious and having awareness.

Imagine bringing the body into a state of relaxation or surrender. You may also call it letting go. Whatever descriptive word fits, use it. In this state, the body and the nervous system knows and detects that it is in a safe and trusted place. It is a state where the connection between the mind and the body are one and they are working together. However, this state may not necessarily discharge that negative stress that has built up in our bodies. So while the relaxation is wonderful and the connection is great, without the discharge there is no room for total peace within our bodies.

Keeping all of this in our minds, what if we revved up the body's reaction, with it still being in this safe and trusted place, to push us to the point where we allow ourselves to go in and discharge that negative stress which is residing in our body. It would be then, that we would find a more total and deep moment of peace, not only in our bodies, but in our mind. It is truly a moment of deep healing within us because the negative stress had resided in our body as negative energy. It is potential energy just waiting to be freed and when it is free, the potential for transformation is off the charts. The negative stress or trapped energy no longer holds us back, drains our energy and causes all kinds of health conditions. It gives us one of the greatest gifts we could ever give ourselves in life.

Unfortunately too many times, our culture has taught us that we need to flee from the pain, the hurts, the negative stress in our lives. When in reality, we need to embrace it and go deep into it because at that moment, our lives will be transformed. It is in the balance and the discharge of the negative stress that we find peace, fulfillment and a greater awareness about our lives.