Sometimes Change Is Hard

We all come up on those moments in life where we know things have to be different.  We all know that sometimes changes is hard.  Yet, it doesn't make it any easier and sometimes it feels like it is more than we can take.

I wish I had a magic wand to make this easier for myself and everyone reading this blog post.  I wish I could go abracadabra and everything would be a sunny day with pretty rainbows.  Unfortunately I can't do that and neither can you.

In some ways, if things were always easy, I'm not really sure we would learn as much as we need to.  I think we would rob ourselves of moments where we build on for the future.  Easy is not always best.  That is why I think that sometimes change is hard.

We're often building a foundation for the future.  We're opening our eyes to see things we haven't seen.  We are becoming aware of thoughts and concepts and a consciousness that we may not yet posses.  Sometimes change is hard so all of this comes together and happens.

Trauma Healing Bandaids

It is easy to think that you can just wave a magic wand and all will go away.   Trauma is trauma.  Trauma requires time to heal and it requires work to heal.  You can't just wish it away and think it is gone.  You can't act as if your magic wand got rid of it and it is gone.

I was reading a comment online the other day and basically the healing therapy that was being promoted is about discharging the memory that came up by bringing it to the surface and clearing the effects of the trauma.  In their view, it was like erasing a virus on a computer as it would no longer impact the person.

It sounds good to wave the magic wand and all the bad stuff in life will be gone.  If it were that simple, I would have done this years ago, but it is not that simple.  We can trick ourselves into believing it is, but then it would be giving false hope.  It is like applying a band-aid to a gushing wound and believing you have done all you need to do to stop the bleeding.