If you haven't seen Part 3, go there first.
In Part 4, we will be discussing the stress set point in the emergency danger zone.
So what can you do if your set point has entered the emergency danger zone?
The first thing is to recognize it. You can't keep running from the body and the mind. You can't keep pushing your body past its limits. You can't keep running from your past even if it is so horrible and painful to see. Okay, you can keep running, but sooner or later, it will take you down to your knees and trust me, it gets much harder to come back. I speak from experience on this.
In the early stages of recovering your set point and reducing allostatic load, you may need to take drastic measures for your own survival. This may include medications and life saving procedures, but you must be careful that these do not become a crutch that is misinterpreted and misrepresented as healing. It is far too easy to do this in your mind. If you stay in this mode, it will not go easy for you in the physical side of your mind and body.
Support and stress reduction activities can be helpful, but they will only take you so far if you ignore what else is going on underneath. Yoga, QiGong, and other movement activities can also help, but again, you need to go to the root cause. It requires traveling into the pain and difficulty, not just treating the surface.
Even massage and bodywork of different flavors can help you to begin the process of balancing out and resetting the set point of your life. Keep in mind though, these things can become the healing crutch rather than the healing. They may often be good for you, but they can become a routine that keeps you at arms length from that which is raising the alarms within your body.
The best thing you can do to help reduce the allostatic load is by going in and learning to connect with your body. Through the felt-sense, breathwork, and movement connected together with someone who is trained, you can begin to feel your body deep within. You can begin to go into the outer edges of what is comfortable, thereby training your mind and body to increase your resilience and take back the power of what is draining your life.
This is not just a mind exercise. It needs to happen at the cellular level to bring about true change in a body. If you don't engage the body and nervous system at a cellular level, you're just putting a band-aid on a gushing wound, hoping it will stop the bleeding.
Sometimes this process is not easy in the beginning, but it is like an Olympic athlete training for the Olympics. They don't start out on day one being able to run 25 miles. They work their way up to it and often through the process, there is muscle discomfort and pain. If they keep training and allowing for recovering, their muscles and body will be ready to do more and to take on more.
The same goes for healing your life and dropping the allostatic load you are under. This is not pie-in-the-sky thinking. It has been proven many times over with those that know how to take someone in and guide them through the process of waking up. The important point though is that you have to go through the process to wake up and stop disconnecting from your life. Anything short of that pushes the set point further and further toward the danger zone, past the point of no return.
The process I've gone through with Dr. Paul Canali of Evolutionary Healing Institute in Miami is called Unified Therapy. In this process, he draws on the core truths of many modalities and then applies them at the right time. He constantly keeps the person engaged through the process and keeps them feeling in their body. When you are feeling in the body, you are in control, but when you have disconnected and are not feeling, that is when you're heading for the cliff.
It sounds so simple and yet complex to go through this, but I know for a fact that many people, including myself, have dropped the allostatic load in their lives. It isn't just a one time moment of healing. As you go through the process you learn to become more aware -- and the more aware you become, the more life shifts so that you can adapt better to stress, heal your life, and keep yourself from maladaptive problem solving.
Make sure you check out the next part in this 5 part series.
Part 5 is "The Best Part Of Dealing With Stress"
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Thank you for these posts on stress. You write in a way that makes it easy to understand. I will be sure to share this!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad they help and thank you for sharing.
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