Asking Pointless Questions Helps You Heal

I get so tired of hearing people use different variations of the statement, "just move on" or "just get over it".  Some may realize they are doing this, but many may not.  To tell someone that is struggling in life through a traumatic experience to just move on is about one of the most hurtful things you can do to them.

When I came out of the hospital from having a Conversion Disorder and being totally paralyzed, I was met with a lot of encouragement.  Unfortunately there were those that would say, "just pray about it" or "you just need to forgive and move on" or "just let it go".   I could make a million statements here of things that people said and none of them were the least bit helpful.

I remember telling one person that told me to just pray about my situation, that if you had broken your arm, would you just pray about it and hope it would heal?  More than likely you would go to a doctor and have them set it in a cast to get it to heal.  Praying can be good and has been shown through research to help in healing, but we all need to get real!  Words can hurt, even if you think you are saying something good.

Consciousness Or Numbing?

I continue to be amazed at just how powerful and protective the mind is. It is full of deep layers of consciousness that if we open up one layer, we begin to see the the unveiling of another layer. Not until we are ready nor open to seeing the deeper layers, will they become viewable to us.

Over the years, I've had many people suggest many things to me from in their words "just moving forward" to "praying about the situation" and "to not focus on all those things". I've had people suggest that they have moved on while I see evidence of some very numbing and unconscious behaviors that they exhibit.

We all have our way of dealing with things in our life and even though we may appear positive on the outside, thinking happy thoughts, it does not mean we are any more conscious or we have truly taken the power back from these things. We may have tricked ourselves into believing this because it has always been our method of survival, but let us not fool ourselves for the future. We as humans are biologically designed to become more conscious of ourselves and more aware of all that we are. To do anything less than this is to not be human.