Maybe this is not always what everyone wants to read or hear, but it is how I've written this blog for the past several years. I share deeply from my heart and my own vulnerability.
Sometimes I weep for people. Lately, that's been much of the time. I see so much and I cannot for the life of me understand why humans do what they do to one another. Here's some of the examples I've witnessed that grind my heart up to not end.
- Example 1: We care and we're here for you, but please enjoy our silence as that is about as far as it goes. I know people mean well, but their actions don't match their words. I stand in confusion wondering if it is something I did or they are just too busy or they just don't realize what their words mean. Maybe it is something else, but it is far too complicated for me to understand.
- Example 2: I only will communicate with you if you believe the way I do or talk the way I think you should or follow what I think you should do in your own life. Of course, they don't come right out and say this but they practice it diligently. I am at a loss with words and understanding how I have to believe or say things or act according to how others view life. It just doesn't make sense and unfortunately it happens far too often.
- Example 3: I am one-sided in my viewpoints. I can't accept your point of view because it is wrong. I will label you and call you names to prove my point and just constantly say that I know what is best and your stupid. I'll do this in horrific ways so that you really feel as low as you can feel. After all, I'm right and you're wrong. I just tend to walk away from these people because I have no desire to fight with someone that is intent on not listening to anything I say.
- Example 4: Let me show you how wrong you are and I will do it constantly every moment of the day. Whether it is social media or a blog or talking to people, boy - just let me show you how wrong you are. It is my responsibility to show ignorance to those who practice is how this type of behavior goes for people in this example. There's no one else in their minds that holds any truth, but them. I'm so saddened when I see this happening at a frequency my mind cannot even begin to comprehend.
- Example 5: They've got a one track mind - yes I do, states the ones that do this. Nothing else matters but their single focused issue or belief or viewpoint. It is all or nothing. It is frequent and in your face. If you don't fully accept their premise and think and talk about whatever the subject is 100% of the time, there's something wrong with you in their eyes. It is their way or the highway!
All of these things and more are practiced every day by those who don't think they do any of this. Some are pretty convincing that they are normal and everyone else is wrong.
These things hurt the fabric of our society. It hurts us being human to one another. It makes us into enemies, rather than fellow travelers on this earth.
No, none of us is perfect and we all make mistakes. Let's just not go embrace them as the norm while we degrade, tear down and rip apart other people. It makes me weep for people. It really does. My heart hurts when I see this behavior.
Respect for one another starts when you stop labeling others and calling them names. Respect for one another starts when you stop to listen and love another without trying to convince them your way is correct or you know what is best for them.
There is so much noise in our day and if we fail to listen, but keep screaming our point of view - we're only adding to the noise. We're not doing anyone any good.
If you've not done any of these things ever in your life, then my hat is off to you. Please write a book and share with the rest of the world how this is done because it is badly needed. Unfortunately, I think we've all crossed the line a few times and right now in our world, the majority of people are truly crossing the line.
Let's not take our deficiencies we see in ourselves out on everyone else. It isn't their fault that we haven't healed a part of our life or progressed past the thought processes and beliefs we were taught. Yes, we don't like to admit we do any of this, but it only takes a few minutes to observe it in action just about anywhere you go.
Let's celebrate others and share with one another what we've learned and what we've experienced. It helps us find our own footing on this treacherous path that is called life. We need each other to make it in a hostile world. We definitely don't need to inflict pain upon others that ends up making them weep with sadness.
How can you begin this moment to let your words match your actions and let your love shine through greater than your own ego?
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