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Friday, July 31, 2015
Thursday, July 30, 2015
I wish I had a magic wand to make this easier for myself and everyone reading this blog post. I wish I could go abracadabra and everything would be a sunny day with pretty rainbows. Unfortunately I can't do that and neither can you.
In some ways, if things were always easy, I'm not really sure we would learn as much as we need to. I think we would rob ourselves of moments where we build on for the future. Easy is not always best. That is why I think that sometimes change is hard.
We're often building a foundation for the future. We're opening our eyes to see things we haven't seen. We are becoming aware of thoughts and concepts and a consciousness that we may not yet posses. Sometimes change is hard so all of this comes together and happens.
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Yes, I know that the people giving the information or doing the healing need to earn a living. It isn't easy for them. Some go out of their way to work with you and others feel like a high dollar item means it is worth more. I'm torn between the two concepts to be quite honest.
Fortunately throughout my life, I've had people that have worked with me and I'm so grateful to them. It wasn't always easy to pay for treatments that I knew would help my life. I thank the universe these people came through my life.
One of the most frequently asked questions I get about the Unlimited Abundance program is how do I pay for it? If I had the money, then I wouldn't need the course. Yes, that's a tough question and a big problem for sure.
Tuesday, July 28, 2015
Unlimited Abundance is one of those progressions I think. I don't think you wake up tomorrow and everything is magically different in your life. Maybe it can be and maybe I am selling the potential in life far too short. It is my belief however that it is a progression.
Every time I talk about Unlimited Abundance, I always feel like I have to caution the statement with a disclaimer that abundance is more than money. Too many people think it is money and in many ways, I believe it most likely a result of abundance. Well, maybe not just cold hard cash money, but that when your life is in sync and you've cleared those energy blocks, the end result becomes the norm.
Monday, July 27, 2015
The stress and frustration level is high, but maybe that's the point. Maybe it is the lesson I need to learn. Maybe it is teaching me how to deal with high levels of stress and frustration. So far, I haven't figured it out, but letting go of the stress and frustration is hard to do.
Disappointment gets to me. I hate it when other people intentionally let me down. I try to look past it and I try to move beyond it, but let's face it - letting go is hard to do. I'm not the only one that struggles with this. I believe it is part of the human experience.
Through all the experiences in life, it sometimes has been pretty hard to let go. I've been through some horrible abuse and torture and while I've managed to dump a lot of it, I'm always amazed at how many layers of the onion there is. It isn't easy and its a continual process of allowing things to surface, work through them, and forgive those moments.
Sunday, July 26, 2015
Enjoy this moment. Enjoy the relaxation to swimming dolphins that I recorded some time ago off the coast of Florida near St. Augustine. It was a beautiful site just to be walking on the beach and watching the brief moment where the dolphins were swimming close to the shore.
Video: Swimming Dolphins (YouTube)
Video: Swimming Dolphins (YouTube)
Saturday, July 25, 2015
Friday, July 24, 2015
Children sense - even if they are not explicitly threatened - that if they talked about their beatings or molestation to teachers they would be punished. Instead, they focus their energy on not thinking about what has happened and not feeling the residues of terror and panic in their bodies. Because they cannot tolerate knowing what they have experienced, they also cannot understand that their anger, terror, or collapse has anything to do with that experience. They don't talk; they act and deal with their feelings by being enraged, shut down, compliant, or defiant.
(Quoted from The Body Keeps The Score, Dr. Bessel Van der Kolk)
Thursday, July 23, 2015
- Some days you just want to scream for all the stress and torment people and jobs and places put you through.
- Some days you just want to run down the street waving your arms in the air and yelling at the tops of your lungs.
- Some days you just want to run on the beach naked (after applying sunscreen of course and protecting those special body parts).
- Some days you just want to prank call everyone and anyone having fun in the most stupid and silliest of ways.
Wednesday, July 22, 2015
To make these easy and healthy pancakes, I take 1.5 cups of oatmeal, 1.25 cups of water and put it in my blender. Then, I add whatever fruit it is that I like. I have used blueberries or a banana or strawberries. I like all three and I'm sure other fruit would work.
Once I've combined them in the Blendtec blender, I select the button that says "batter" on it and I let it blend up through its routine. Most of the time when I do this, it thickens fairly quickly so I often pour it back in a measuring cup. It makes about 2 cups of batter and I can get about 10 pancakes out of it.
Tuesday, July 21, 2015
I am constantly amazed at how our society and culture treat one another. There is no love. There seems to be only hate. The ones blinded by hate cannot even begin to see what love means. Unfortunately, it feels like that is 100% of the population in this country and world.
To be one that tries to love others feels like a part of a super small group of individuals. Some people proclaim they love others, but their rhetoric and social media postings might suggest otherwise. Love is not mere words. Love is putting your words in action.
I grew up in a house that proclaimed love and one of the recurring quotes I heard pounded into the table was "by God, we are a family and were going to love one another no matter what". Of course, there was anything but true love in our house. It was a facade. These quotes usually were a result of control and manipulation and abuse.
Monday, July 20, 2015
Whether it is on another one of those endless conference calls listening to people scream and argue and one-up everyone else. Whether it is reading one of those million emails you're copied on in a day. Whether it is running errands, picking up the kids or checking Facebook a million times. There is just too much of our day that is noise and nonsense.
It truly blows my mind how the rat race runs our life. I don't think it is healthy for humans, yet that doesn't slow us down. Most people don't know how to slow down and stop and focus on a life that truly matters.
Sunday, July 19, 2015
The little girl was standing in the waiting area with her mom at the counter. Another young girl who was maybe a year or two older came up to her and tried to be nice and friendly. The little shy girl immediately withdrew and the other girl walked away. You could see the shy girl all withdrawn in her body and had her arms tucked in around her body.
Her mom of course begins to chastise her for being shy and demanded that she lower her arms down. With scorn, she told the little shy girl that she needed to learn how to be nice to strangers. The mom ridiculed her little daughter for being shy and of course the older sibling had to make sure she did the same.
Saturday, July 18, 2015
Friday, July 17, 2015
From The Book
Title: Untethered Soul
Author: Michael Singer
- From Page 30 -
Now you are in your center of consciousness. You are behind everything, just watching. That is your true home. Take everything else away and you’re still there, aware that everything is gone. But take the center of awareness away, and there is nothing. That center is the seat of Self. From that seat, you are aware that there are thoughts, emotions, and a world coming in through your senses. But now you are aware that you’re aware.
Thursday, July 16, 2015
Looking now at what has become of my family, I wonder where the family is. We never talk. I haven't talked to anyone in years and really don't have a desire or plan to do this. It was my only way to survive by cutting off contact with my family. It was the only way I could begin to slow down the anxiety attacks, begin dealing with the depression, and stop looking for ways to kill myself.
As a kid, I was super attached to my parents. If I went to summer camp for a week, I was an emotional wreck. I could not stand to be away from them for even one second. This was in spite of all that was being done to me. I attached to those that hurt me.
Wednesday, July 15, 2015
In my own recovery, I remember something very similar and while it is eerie to read these accounts, it also brings solace and confirmation. When a child abuse survivor goes through these things, you feel crazy that you have flashbacks of things that most would consider normal. In my case, it was purple.
For a long time, I didn't know what that was. I just knew that in the middle of the night and even at any time during the day or night, I would be frightened beyond belief of the color purple. It made no sense. I had no recollection of why the flashbacks of purple were haunting me.
If you want to know more about why "purple" was so haunting to me, you can read about it in my book, Hope And Possibility Through Trauma, on page 10.
Tuesday, July 14, 2015
Unfortunately as we continue in life, we repeat what we've been taught. We repeat it as proven fact, even if it is not. We don't tend to question too much because if we do, we threaten the family unit. We threaten the bonds that we have within the family unit. Anything that does not build a cohesive unit is generally not allowed.
There is so much evidence of how we all do this, no matter who we are, or how enlightened we think we are. Instead of going in and questioning all that was imprinted upon our young minds, we just continue to assume it was fact. It isn't a matter that our parents are right or wrong, because most likely they were doing the same thing. They didn't go in and question it either.
Monday, July 13, 2015
We can't always have rainbows every day because a rainbow means the storm clouds have just passed. In order to see the rainbows, we need to feel the storms and the rain. It takes the rough parts to see the beautiful parts. Unfortunately what too many are claiming as "truth" is that they can have the rainbows without the storms.
If you get rid of the negative stuff, you're really just numbing yourself out in life. It is that plain and simple. Without the negative and rough and bad stuff, you're only living half a life. Part of life is pain and the other part is learning from the pain. Okay, I realize I just simplified things too much, but that's the jest of the issue I'm raising.
Sunday, July 12, 2015
I remember when I took the picture, it was just a bunch of clouds. After I downloaded the picture, I saw much more than that.
I'm not going to write it here, because I'll let you see what you see. Perhaps, you see something different then me. I'm not certain. For now, the picture is energizing and uplifting to me.
Let me know in the comments below what you see in the picture. How does it hit you? I'd love to hear it and maybe if I get enough comments, I'll share what it is that I see in the clouds.
Saturday, July 11, 2015
A thought for today.
When times get difficult and rough, can you keep going?
Through moments that seem endless and full of despair, can you keep going?
When all else falls away and seems like you're all alone, can you keep going?
In moments, when you just want to make it all stop, can you keep going?
Friday, July 10, 2015
Title: The Brain That Changes Itself
Author: Norman Doidge
The brain is a far more open system than we ever imagined, and nature has gone very far to help us perceive and take in the world around us. It has given us a brain that survives in a changing world by changing itself.
Thursday, July 9, 2015
In "Untethered Soul" by Michael Singer, he wrote that "reality is just too real for most of us, so we temper it with the mind." (pg 14 Kindle Edition) If you think about this for a moment, you can see how true it is, yet we all do this in one way or another. It is how we exist.
In today's world, there is way too much noise and input for our minds to deal with in a day. There is too much distraction and stress and bombardment from all directions. If we begin to immerse ourselves into this culture, we quickly become overwhelmed and no "right thinking" will undue what we subject ourselves to each and every day.
If you are a highly sensitive person and you are following the news on TV, it is a big mistake. If you're following it online, it is almost as big a mistake. There is just too much coming out of that.
Wednesday, July 8, 2015
Its easier to point out where groups and people and organizations and "OTHERS" don't measure up. Its easier to point out where OTHERS are screwing up, disappointing us and the entire world. It is easier to point out where OTHERS just aren't enough.
We blame them for our lot in life. We make an example out of them on Facebook or other social media. The news media hails them as the problem, while we raise our cheers to the sky.
Its far easier to look at others and point out there sins. It is far easier to point out how horrible this person is or that person is. We can prove it. We can proclaim it. For we know that our point of view about others is right and everyone else is wrong. It is far easier to despise those that have more than us for they are evil in the eyes of so many.
Tuesday, July 7, 2015
I normally don't wade into the social issues much because there are so many people screaming. It just bothers me when I see comments like this posted. It feels like selected bigotry by religions. Their statement makes them feel validated but that's about it. It is highly disrespectful to gay people that they so vehemently hate.
Now, before you get all up in arms with me and accuse me of intolerance, religions are protected in the constitution and they have buildings to go and preach at whatever they believe every single day of the year. They take in lots of money in a year and while I don't think they use it wisely most of the time, they don't pay taxes on it. Lots of people in the church earn a good living and some have a pretty nice income. Some religions and people of faith understand things good and too many others show the evil side of religions.
Monday, July 6, 2015
Unfortunately, we don't know as much about food and the body as we think we do. Pat yourself on the back if you think you're an exception, but most likely you're not. If you buy into most of the modern day paradigms, let me sell you some moon water while you're thinking about that one.
Too much of what we were taught really wasn't what we needed to know. No sense in blaming our parents or schools or society for what we were taught. It isn't going to get you very far. So, feel free to stretch your limits and your own paradigms. Time to re-educate yourself.
Saturday, July 4, 2015
Friday, July 3, 2015
Thursday, July 2, 2015
Its easy to just blow things off and continue on through our busy days. We get another cup of coffee at Starbucks or we down an "energy drink" and we trudge on. We count down the hours until our work day is finished. We browse the internet and check Facebook, just hoping that the day will soon be over.
One day it starts out as a sore back or a tightness in our chest. It may show up as a stiff neck or arm that doesn't want to move. Headaches are often a sign that we have more stress and exhaustion in our mind and body then we realize.
So we pop some more pills and hope for the best. We welcome the quick and painless methods that are taught to our society. We keep going. We keep trudging. We don't stop to take a rest.
Wednesday, July 1, 2015
Over the years, I have been asked to endorse and become an affiliate with every product under the sun. Yes, I know I get a high volume of views on this blog, but the views are because I have integrity and I write about things from my heart that matter. If it was just about being an affiliate, this blog would be nothing more than what everyone else does.
I've had so many people want me to endorse their book, their product, their website, their idea and I'm sorry, but so many of them just don't rise to the level they need to for me to be come interested enough to do this. Most of the time I have passed.