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Thursday, November 27, 2014

Silver Gel For Rashes and Itching

Many years ago I went through a condition that I thought would never show up again.  If you suffer from rashes or itching, you'll want to pay close attention to this post.  If you've ever been through a rash like what I have that about drives you crazy with the pain and itching, this product is for you.  It works! (based upon my own personal experience)

Most things out on the market never helped me.  Most over-the-counter products may have given a moment of temporary relief only to rebound and make the problem much worse.  I'm sorry if you're an over-the-counter product company and believe your products work, but they don't!  I've tried them and I'm not going back to try them again.  The last thing you want in a situation like this is something that makes the situation worse.  Yes, I'm sure you have all kinds of studies and marketing to prove your product works, but they don't!

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Change Begins With Us

We tend to look at "others" with the issues.  It is always someone else.  It is always another race, another group, another political position that has the issues.  It is never us.  It is them, they, or those people.  We point the fingers.  We make the tweets.  We obliterate different viewpoints on the news, as if this is really news.

We vow to make change.  We vow that things need to change.  We vow that it should not be this way, but yet, does it ever change?  Do we actually follow through or is it all forgotten in a week or two when the story dies down?  When the cameras are turned off and the news trucks are gone to the next sensational story, do we still vow to make change?

It isn't the other people out there with the problems.  It is each one of us.  What we see in others resides in each one of us collectively.  Yes, not everyone acts upon those things, but the energy and vibration still exist.  We're still collectively as much a part of the problem as "they" or "them" or "those people" are.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Slammed By The Waves Of LIfe

Lately, I feel like everything has come at me at once.  The amount of major events that have taken place are so numerous I can barely index them in my thoughts.  It feels like I've been slammed by the waves of life.

If you've ever been to the ocean, you will know that the waves keep coming in one by one.  Just when you have your footing from one wave, another sometimes sneaks up on you and crashes into you.  Getting slammed by the waves in an ocean can be fun, but in life it can create much stress.

As these events have happened lately, I try to remain focused on my day.  I try to do what I need to do and prioritize my time.  If I do too much, then I easily become overwhelmed.  When the emotions are high and the stress levels are through the roof, we have to be very cognizant of taking care of ourselves.  Prioritizing our tasks in the day is essential.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Say NO to Early Thanksgiving Store Openings

The one thing I grew up with was a joy of the holiday season.  Even with the stress that comes with the holidays, it is still one moment of the year that I look forward to with anticipation.  I'm appalled at how the major retailers have put profits over people.  I think we should all say NO to early Thanksgiving store openings.

Yes, I realize that the stores see Black Friday as a way to make a profit and I realize that there is a lot of money made on this day.  However, is it not possible to value your employees enough so that they can spend time with their families?  I'm sure all of you retailers promote how much you are a family and how much you care about family values!  If you do, then why are profits more important?

We live in a world that we value people very little, but if we can stuff another dollar in our pockets at their expense, we don't seem to see a problem with this.  If we don't watch out, we will destroy the bedrock that business and corporations have been built upon.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

There Is A Time And Place

We've lost out common sense and reasonableness in the world today.  Everyone thinks that their needs are above every other person.  It seems that our lives become more important than the lives of others around.  However, there is a time and place for everything.

I just saw a report that a high school football player got flagged for kneeling to pray after he made a touchdown.  Okay, I'm not sure why he got flagged for it, but I'm guessing there is some rule against doing some such behavior.  I'm not sure why he felt the need to hold up an entire game and his teammates and the spectators so he could grandstand with prayer in front of everyone.  What is that verse in the bible that talks about going into your closet and praying to your father in secret?  Hmmm, maybe he reads a different bible than I have? There is a time and place.

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Humans Could Learn From Emperor Penguins

I've been watching a documentary series lately called, Life In The Freezer.  For the most part, it is well done, except for the times when the people invade the space of the animals they are around.  I don't have a problem with them getting close to the animals, but respect their space, please!  As I watched the episode yesterday, I saw how humans could learn so much from emperor penguins.

Let me describe the scenario of how the young are born.  When the egg is laid, the environment is too cold and so the mother holds the egg in a pouch above her feet to keep it warm.  At some point, she then transfers it to the male partner which is a beautiful process in itself.

For the next several months, the male will actually protect and carry the egg in a pouch that is designed to keep it very warm.  During this time, the mother penguin will travel a distance to find food and be gone for several months.  The father penguin will hold the egg through some of the harshest months in the coldest environments of the world.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Feel Your Body And Find Your Truth

All too often we want to believe and follow what others say.  Whether it is New Age thoughts or Religions or Politicians or the Media, we look to everyone for answers to our life's situation.  We fail to go in and look within ourselves.  When you feel your body, you will find your truth.

Yes, I know the buzz words flow these days and people talk about the mind body connection, but most really don't understand what that means. 

Until you have an experience that you can replicate and is part of your mind and body connection, you will only know what others tell you is the truth.  When you experience these things deep within your physical body while connecting them within the felt sense of your brain, it is then that you have discovered truth for your own life.

Monday, November 17, 2014

Chill Out Day At The Ocean

Today was a day just to be with nature.  Today was a chill out day walking by the ocean, feeling the water touching my feet and soaring with the birds into the sounds of ocean waves.

The sun peaked in and out of the clouds in the far off distance as the wind gently brushed my face.  I smelled the ocean breeze and it was refreshing and invigorating.

The coolness of the sand in October and the feeling of the water as I waded along the shore.  The sounds of the people playing and talking and running.  The sounds of the people just observing the birds as they were flying through the air.

For some reason, I'm drawn to the waters of the ocean.  For some reason, I'm renewed by the sounds and the sights and the feelings I get when I'm near the ocean waters.  I feel engulfed by something much greater than myself.

Thursday, November 13, 2014

John Grisham and Child Porn

I want to say this first before anyone starts to think I'm some whacko or idiot or liberal or whatever they think is appropriate to call someone.  I love John Grisham's books.  I've been an avid reader of his books and I don't think I have missed buying any that he has written.  I love the movies made from  his book.  He is one of my favorite authors.

However, when I saw that snippet of the interview he did where he was asked a question and he responded with an answer using child porn as an example, I have to say I was disappointed.  It didn't take long for his fans to start responding and then he retracted his statement with some form of an apology.  Of course the apology was done in a typical PR fashion with legalese.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Taking Care Of Yourself In Times Of Stress

We've all had those moments in life where we endure much more than we wish we had to face.  We go through times when the stress level is so high, we wonder if we can make it through.  Taking care of yourself in times of stress is important but not always easy.

Recently, we had one of those moments in our house and family.  There were a few days where sleep was hard to come by and we lived on the edge of reality.  Everything seemed like it was lost in time and we just went from moment to moment not knowing how the situation would turn out.  It was a time of extreme stress.

One person asked us during this time, "are you taking care of yourself?"   Unfortunately we had to say no.  We didn't get any sleep the first night and then subsequent days we did not get much sleep.  We were rushing to and from the hospital and waiting to hear any tidbit of good news.  However, we were not taking care of our self.

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Being Real Is Being Human

One of the things I keep trying to help people understand is being balanced in life.  I want people to be real and human.  Its okay to think great and wonderful thoughts full of happiness and love.  However, if you are hiding your head in the sand, you're not being real.  You're not being human.  You're not being anyone that others can relate to in this life.  We all need relatable people.

I grew up in a church background where everything was pray to God and God will solve all your problems.  God will always provide.  The funny thing was that these same people had more illness and problems then the population at large.  If God was helping them through their prayers and beautiful words of love, then "Houston, we have a problem".  I'm not saying the belief in God is bad and you should abandon it, but I just saw how abused and unreal it was.

Monday, November 10, 2014

Helping Yourself To Help Others

Many years ago after I was in Bridgeway Psychiatric Hospital recovering from the paralysis of Conversion Disorder, I was introduced to a thought I had never been introduced known.  We were in group therapy and the doctor was talking about helping our self in order to help others.

So often we help others at the expense of helping ourselves.  It is easy to do and sometimes it is part of the human experience.  It is hard to see someone in pain, especially if you are highly sensitive like I am.   I don't like to see people suffer or animals for that matter.  I generally feel all of their suffering much more intensely in my own body.

Sitting in that group session that day, the doctor asked the question.   If there was a banquet table full of food and there was you and another person, but only one chair (one place) at the table, what would you do?  Would you eat first before the other person or let the other person eat first?

Thursday, November 6, 2014

From The Moment I Met You


From The Moment I Met You


15 Years ago, we ran into each other almost by accident.  Neither of us was looking to make a connection.  We weren't looking for someone.  Yet, it just happened.

Our paths crossed and connected by events that were related, but so unrelated.  Little did we realize that we would even met.  Little did we realize that if we met, there would be anything more than a "hello" and "nice to meet you".

From the moment we met, I felt like I always knew you.  From the moment we met, I felt as if we were somehow connected in a way that I could not verbalize.  It was as if two stars were born together.  It was as if two ships passed by on the ocean sea. 

From the moment I met you, I felt so close.  I felt so comfortable.  I trusted you and your touch.  I wasn't scared of you.  I didn't want to run from you.

From the moment I met you, I didn't know what was happening.  I tried hard to convince myself that I wasn't gay.  I was straight and I could prove it.  Yet, how could I prove it, for I had known for a very long time that I wasn't like most other guys.  I was different and I had been taught all my life that being gay was wrong and so with tears, I said goodbye - not knowing what to do with what I was feeling inside.

The moments we shared that first weekend are still locked within the memories of my heart and mind.  They are like reminders of yesterday which seems like just a short moment ago.  The moments we shared in those hours together where we talked for hours and listened intently as we basked in the connection we both felt. It wasn't clear what was going on.  I doubt either of us could explain it.  Yet, from that moment, our lives changed forever.

As I rode home on the airplane, I cried.  I didn't know how to deal with the feelings I had as I said goodbye.  I was falling in love with another guy and my upbringing dictated that this was not possible.  Yet, I couldn't leave.   Yet, I didn't want to leave.  I just wanted to be with you from the moment I met you.

Time rushed by and soon we were together, but I'll never forget those beginning moments 15 years ago.  I'll never forget how much we have both changed and how you've helped me to grow in ways I never imagined. 

I'll not forget all the difficult moments we've faced together and how we're always there for each other, holding each others hand as we walk through the fire.  It isn't about who gains and loses or who is better or worse.  It is just about being together and accepting one another where they are at, happy to enjoy the journey and dance through life.

15 years has gone by quickly and while so many things were against us, I would not trade one moment.  I would not give up one moment with you.  Some day our love will be accepted and recognized, but what matters is the love we have for each other in our heart. 

I look forward to the next 15 years as we walk through the journey of life, dancing to our own tunes and finding our way.  You're the best thing that has happened to me and my heart is so full of love as I think of you.

Happy 15 Anniversary to my friend, soul-mate and partner in life.

I love you so much.


Don







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Wednesday, November 5, 2014

Spending Millions To Buy Elections

The 2014 elections are over.  The ballots have been cast.  Winners have been named.  Even though I'm writing this well in advance, I can predict that some people will claim this is a victory for their side and others will claim that it is a travesty.

Unfortunately in our country, we have bastardized elections to be nothing more than a political grab by one group over another.  We donate money at astonishing rates to claim victory.  In the end, it doesn't really matter that we do anything here to advance society, as long as our side wins.

Oh, we claim we are in this to make changes and to take back our country.  We claim we have the right ideas and that we will get the country headed in the right direction.  We claim that we know what the country needs.

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Bending Time And Music


I never really think much about this subject, but it is one that has always impacted my life.  Bending time and music gives so much depth to our every day experiences.  I don't believe time is any more consistent than most facts that we believe in.  I think there is a much more to this world than we often see, feel, experience, or know.

Today I saw two totally unrelated postings on social media about how many people felt off as to what day of the week it was.  It was like a collective mind thought of something we all take for granted.  What intrigued me more was how the two totally unrelated and unconnected event just caught my attention today.

Many may explain it one way or the other and sometimes it is often hard to say with certainty what is going on.  Yet, I don't think you can deny that something is shifting and changing in this world.  Sometimes those shifts and changes come with great struggle and difficulty because we are morphing from one plane into another.

Monday, November 3, 2014

What Illness Teaches Me

One of the things that I learn when I'm sick is more how others feel.  Whether it is back pain or a cold or some muscle ache I've gone through, first hand experience gives me insight into what others face.  We may think we know what it is like to walk in the shoes of another person, but until we've walked in their footsteps, we truly don't understand it.

Even if we have been through some period of illness or pain, time often helps us forget the true ordeal we went through.  Yes, we may remember many parts of what happened, but so much of it gets lost in time.

I'm not promoting the concept that we should be sick and in pain all the time.  This would not be fun for anything and I would think is opposite to the human experience as one can be.  Yet, I know that when we face those rough moments in life, we're much more compassionate towards others.