I grew up in a house where major crap was done all the time. I saw my mom beat for just about anything she did. I was beat for anything and everything. I was molested by multiple people. You name it, I saw it.
The only thing is that time and time again, these same offending lowlifes in my family apologized for what they did. The statement "I apologize - I never meant to hurt you" was uttered constantly. It was meaningless words meant to sound like they were sincere. They were sincere until the next moment where you were beat or molested.